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Post by bejjinks on Dec 21, 2014 16:03:37 GMT 1
I've mostly got depression beat. I'm not even on any antidepressants currently. But the holidays are the most difficult time of the year. My family depresses me.
Some of the way my family depresses me is that they keep looking at my ability to manage money. They don't understand that the real problem is depression, not money management. I know how to manage a budget and if it was strictly a matter of know how, I wouldn't have any financial problems. But I fail to keep up with my finances because getting out of bed is a challenge. So when my family keeps telling me that maybe I need someone to manage my finances for me, they don't realize how much that hurts and does not help.
My biggest problem with depression is efficiency. That is, I get out of bed and I do go outside and live but often I have to drag myself outside which means I'm not "GETTING UP AND GOING" like a normal sane person ought to. And people telling me I shouldn't be depressed does nothing to stop the depression. I simply don't get as much done in a day as I ought to and if people want to help me so much, they should help me become more efficient. They should help me figure out how to get more done on the energy I have.
It really hurts because I really could use some support right now but I can't trust my family to give me the right kind of support. It's like I'm asking for help getting out of the wheelchair and they're helping me into the wheelchair instead.
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Post by Zaf on Dec 25, 2014 12:59:38 GMT 1
Firstly WELL DONE for getting as far as you have  Sadly unless someone has experienced depression they have no idea how awful it is and trying to explain it seems to fall on deaf ears  do they realise you have depression? If so there is a good web site that explains it to relatives and friends and even a little paperback available from Amazon. Z xxx |
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Post by bejjinks on Dec 25, 2014 13:07:07 GMT 1
They know I was in the hospital for being suicidal. Also since depression runs in the family they ought to understand but they get confused. My mom went around telling everyone that there was something wrong with me mentally and so instead of thinking that my behavior is depression, they hear mom's words all the time and wonder if there is something mentally wrong with me.
What is the website that explains it to relatives?
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Post by Zaf on Dec 25, 2014 13:11:57 GMT 1
I'll find it for you and post a link x
I think part of the trouble is that older people dont really understand it and until recently its been a huge stigma within families so its never really discussed properly
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Post by Zaf on Dec 25, 2014 13:16:01 GMT 1
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Post by shazzy on Dec 27, 2014 23:04:27 GMT 1
Hello and welcome to our forum. I do so feel for you. Its so difficult for people to understand how we feel. Its not black and white, depression affects us all differently. I know only to well the feeling of not wanting to get up and get going in the morning.
The site Zaf has posted is very good at explaining to others. I do hope it helps.
S x x
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Post by bejjinks on Dec 28, 2014 4:53:31 GMT 1
I just got back from Christmas with my family. My oldest sister certainly knows how to make me feel worthless. She said, "Well you benefited from it." The subtext of what she was saying is, "You should have been punished for it therefore it's your fault." Basically she still blames me for what Mom did.
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Post by Zaf on Dec 28, 2014 14:55:17 GMT 1
Some people can be very cruel and when we have depression comments like that cut like a knife ((((((hugs))))))
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Post by shazzy on Dec 28, 2014 17:35:30 GMT 1
Feel for you, that was not a nice thing for your sister to say. ((((( hugs ))))) from me too.
S x x
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do they realise you have depression? If so there is a good web site that explains it to relatives and friends and even a little paperback available from Amazon.
