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Post by glen on Sept 10, 2013 11:48:00 GMT 1
Tough times. I know from years of experience how difficult it can be to look after someone who is a little confused, let alone looking after an unwell pet too. The only thing I would say is to know your limits Zaf. If you overload yourself and become a little overwhelmed, you will be less able to care for your mum and this can quickly lead to problems. Its a hard thing to find the right balance but it can be done - just try to ask for help from family if you can when you feel a little tired.
Im always here to advise you if I can.
Take care
G.
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Post by Zaf on Sept 10, 2013 14:07:18 GMT 1
It is, she is not on any painkillers now but apart from being very stiff when she starts to move about she doesnt seem to be in pain, a couple of the wounds seem a little messy but I'm keeping them clean till she has her next appointment on Friday, if there seems a problem in the meantime I'll phone the vet and if necessary take her back beforehand.
Mum seems reasonably OK and allowed me to cook her a hot meal this lunchtine, its good to see her getting her appetite back and allowing us to help, the doctor should be coming in tomorrow so I hope Im around when he arrives so I can have a quick word.
This afternoon I'm planning a bit of a nap and hopefully things will settle down properly before too long
Z xx
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Post by shazzy on Sept 10, 2013 18:25:29 GMT 1
Its so good to hear Rosie is healing so well  . also great to hear your mum is getting her appetite back. Just remember you need 'me' time.
Hugs S x
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Post by Zaf on Sept 10, 2013 20:43:14 GMT 1
Not easy at the moment shaz but I know I ought to, trouble is I keep saying 'next week' but then next week gets busy too  Z xxx |
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Post by shazzy on Sept 10, 2013 21:09:41 GMT 1
I know it must be difficult for you Zaf, are you getting any help in connection with your mum?
Big caring (((((( hugs )))))) for you.
S x x
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Post by michael1958 on Sept 12, 2013 14:59:30 GMT 1
Dear Zaf - have things improved in any way? I realise that it's never easy to focus on yourself, but it's important to take little steps to be kind to YOURSELF for a while. You can't just keep giving to others. I hope that your mother is continuing to improve. Michael. xx |
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Post by Zaf on Sept 12, 2013 20:22:03 GMT 1
Thankfully they have Michael thank you Today Im tired but reasonably positive and its nice not to feel anxious and down even if only for a short while (hopefully longer) Z xxx |
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Post by Zaf on Sept 15, 2013 8:46:33 GMT 1
Tired and feeling a tiny bit pressured that I'm having to juggle things about to fit everyting in around other people, I need a bit of routine back in my life but am struggling to achieve it.
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Post by glen on Sept 15, 2013 9:49:18 GMT 1
It may take a while for things to settle back into a routine. There has been a lot going on in your life.
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Post by Zaf on Sept 15, 2013 18:37:55 GMT 1
It certainly has been a very disrupted and anxious few weeks Glen, I'm really fortunate that Jan is holding the fort in the office as I really dont think Id have coped if I'd had all that to do as well. Hopefully once the frequent vets visits have eased up I'll get a chance to get a bit more structure to my life Z xxx |
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Post by glen on Sept 15, 2013 20:03:15 GMT 1
Having a loved one or family member become that ill in hospital is a huge drain on anyone, but when you have depression too it must be very difficult. You also have added weight on top of this too but despite what you may think, you have done very well. Ive seen perfectly healthy strong people crumble under this sort of pressure, but you have held it together so well Zaf. The decisions you've made cant have been easy but you have made them and stuck by them. You've been strong when you have needed to be and that is to be commended. Just make sure you talk when you need to. Its the hardest part in all this.
Big hugs to you Zaf.
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Post by Zaf on Sept 16, 2013 18:49:38 GMT 1
Thanks Glen, talking makes a huge difference with this illness sometimes, especially with fellow sufferers as se understand each others perspective.
Hope all is well with you
Z xx
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Post by Zaf on Sept 18, 2013 13:14:55 GMT 1
Not too bad today, having a bit of a routine helps, as with so many things in life its getting the balance right - not too rigid a routine or I get stressed, no routine and I get stressed!
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Post by glen on Sept 18, 2013 19:16:40 GMT 1
Good to hear.
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Post by shazzy on Sept 19, 2013 21:27:15 GMT 1
You have had an awful time of it of late. You are not alone in needing a routine.
Love and hugs S x
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. also great to hear your mum is getting her appetite back. Just remember you need 'me' time.
