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Post by shazzy on Aug 18, 2013 18:46:49 GMT 1
Hopefully you will feel more at ease when you see your mum. My thoughts are with you.
S x x
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Post by leo on Aug 21, 2013 7:54:19 GMT 1
Thinking of you. Hope your mum is ok x
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Post by Zaf on Aug 22, 2013 20:22:16 GMT 1
Thanks leo, she is improving very slowly and at last has been moved from Addenbrooks to our local hospital  Z xxx |
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Post by Zaf on Aug 24, 2013 14:07:32 GMT 1
Very tired and rather apathetic today, allowing myself to rest and hoping I'm not slipping back into depression
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Post by Zaf on Aug 26, 2013 7:38:22 GMT 1
Very very tired, a sneaky feeling depression is creeping back  |
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Post by glen on Aug 26, 2013 9:26:40 GMT 1
Sorry to hear that. I'm always here to help if I can.
Take care xx
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Post by Zaf on Aug 26, 2013 15:57:36 GMT 1
Thanks Glen
Z xxx
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Post by shazzy on Aug 27, 2013 0:24:39 GMT 1
Big caring ((((((( hugs ))))))) for you Zaf.
S x x
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Post by Zaf on Aug 27, 2013 13:50:10 GMT 1
Thanks shaz xxxx
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Post by shazzy on Aug 28, 2013 13:42:06 GMT 1
Hi Zaf, hope you are OK and your mum is improving.
S x x
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Post by Zaf on Aug 28, 2013 21:17:07 GMT 1
Very up and down shaz
Z xxx
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Post by shazzy on Aug 29, 2013 0:07:56 GMT 1
So feel for you Zaf, my thoughts are with you and your mum.
S x x
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Post by Zaf on Aug 29, 2013 15:18:04 GMT 1
Today I feel angry and frustrated, we were perfectly prepared to let my mum discharge herself Saturday and look after her ourselves. My sister phoned the hospital and our surgery this morning and I phoned the social services to see if they could do a home assessment with a full explanation of what was happening. About half an hour ago I had a call from the hospital!!
They have now started working with her to assess her needs (after bugger all being done for 6 days), I appreciate they are short staffed in a busy ward but to leave an elderly lady in a room with almost no interaction from any human being and no external stimulas is absolutely criminal imo. They have started her on antidepressants at last and say they'll ask the mental health team to see her and will move her to a bay rather than a single room, the local hospital cannot take her yet ( shes 4th on the waiting list) but they really really dont want us allowing her to discharge herself even though I said I would sleep there (surprise surprise!).
So Saturdays jailbreak is probably postponned for a few days and we at last have a contact number at the hospital for the OT. We will monitor the situation closely and will be ready to get mum home at the drop of a hat if we feel its necessary.
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Post by glen on Aug 29, 2013 22:25:17 GMT 1
I can see why you are angry Zaf, and working in the system you are not wrong - sometimes people do get left on their own for too long with no interaction. Its a few problems to blame - short staffing and putting people in single rooms. They are all very nice if you want privacy but they can also hide a multitude of sins from the staff when you are trying to watch your patients.
They will naturally want to assess and see what the best options are for your mum before she is discharged. They should be including you as next of kin in whatever decisions are being made so if you don't feel they are doing so, complain. I can see some of where they are coming from in regards to wanting to keep her in for a bit, as they want to make sure they are offering her the best chance of a good recovery. Its frustrating I know when you want her to be able to come out of hospital, and there is a lot to be said about recovering at home in your own environment - it does make a difference. If she needs a rehab input though, the best services are still in the hospital and its worth checking out exactly whats on offer and what they may be able to do before she comes out. While shes in the system, things do happen albeit a bit slowly sometimes. If she gets to the local hospital shes got a good chance of getting the best services but once shes home, there tends to be 'gaps' in the system where referrals don't get done and checkups don't get done either. I can help you complain if you feel you need to and don't feel she is getting proper care.
Im here if I can help at all Zaf. I have the benefit of having been a patient as well as being on the staff so I have a fairly balanced view. I also have insider info on what should be happening and what should be offered. Just ask me if you think I can help. It must be very tough for you right now trying to do the best by your mum, and the stress on some of these decisions can be very high, so please let me help if I can.
Take care xxx
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Post by shazzy on Aug 29, 2013 22:27:28 GMT 1
Oh Zaf what a nightmare this has been for you all. I can understand your anger and frustration. Thank goodness that things are being done to help your mum recover. I am glad to hear she is being seen by the mental health team as I know you have been concerned for a long while about her depression. I do so hope your mum is finally going to get the help and care she deserves.
Love to you
S x x
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