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Post by Zaf on Aug 8, 2013 6:25:41 GMT 1
Thanks guys xxxx
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Post by glen on Aug 8, 2013 9:39:20 GMT 1
Hi Zaf.
I hope today is kinder to you.
Take care. xx
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Post by Zaf on Aug 8, 2013 13:55:09 GMT 1
Thanks Glen, unfortunately not but I need to find a way out of this bad patch if I can. I took my mum to the optician today, I am worried about her mental and now physical health but cant persuade her to see a doctor, since my dad died she has become reclusive and depressed (even tnough she wont admit it) and although I dont resent helping her in any way at all I know seeing her deteriorate isnt helping my mental health.
Z xxx
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Post by Zaf on Aug 8, 2013 16:09:02 GMT 1
I just had a bit of a frightening thought, where I am right now (and have been here many times) I have tidying and 'getting everything in order' mania - this time I recognise its coinciding with wishing I wasnt struggling with this existence and simply not to be here would be easier, I'm not planning anything drastic but just that not being here might be easier.
Today I actually wondered if I ought to get in touch with my counsellor again to try to find out what my mind is doing
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Post by glen on Aug 8, 2013 19:20:42 GMT 1
It can't hurt.
Having been in a dark place myself last year the only advice I can give is to try to talk through it. I will always listen and help if I can but a councillor may be the best plan if you feel up to it.
Looking after family is tough and imo it's harder than my job. It can really affect those who are doing the caring. I know as I've seen it before many times. All you can do is be there for her and try to advise her to seek help when she will listen. Maybe she will realise in time. In the meantime you need to be mindful of how you are feeling and coping. If it's getting to you then it may be time for a step back if you can. If you crumble you won't be able to help so by taking care of yourself you are taking care of her too in a way.
Take care zaf. I'm always here if I can help.
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Post by Zaf on Aug 9, 2013 6:27:54 GMT 1
Thanks Glen, I have to admit to being very fragile at the moment and stepping away a bit is probably the most sensible thing I can do, both with worrying about my mum and latterly business problems as I can feel my mental health deteriorating rapidly in the lladt few days and possibly heading towards another breakdown which is the last thing I need
Z xxx
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Post by shazzy on Aug 9, 2013 9:00:31 GMT 1
This situation is really hard with your mum, you can't help worrying about her. I think contacting your councellor would be a good idea she helped you before. I am always here for you any time.
Love to you
S x x
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Post by Zaf on Aug 9, 2013 13:30:16 GMT 1
Thanks shaz  Ive done the most important thing for my own MH, told David how I am feeling, how he copes living with me and this dammned illness sometimes I'll never know  I am becomingly increasingly concerned about my mum, since Sunday she has become increasingly confused (couldnt remember who Jan is this morning), Im wondering if she has had a mild stroke but not sure if that can just affect that sirt of thing without obvious physical symptoms. Unfortunately Jan is on holday next week but now David knows I'm in trouble mentally I know he will shield me from any hassles there if he can. Z xxx |
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Post by Zaf on Aug 9, 2013 15:41:46 GMT 1
I bit the bullet and called the duty doctor, she thought it necessary to send someone out so they will be on their way before too long I hope. Feeling very very stressed |
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Post by shazzy on Aug 10, 2013 0:08:26 GMT 1
You have done the right thing in telling David how you are feeling, I am sure he knew something was wrong. Let him be there for you, its hard for us when we just want to protect our loved ones from how bad we feel sometimes.
I do do hope your mum is OK, I am glad that a Dr is seeing her.
My thoughts are with you as always.
S x x
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Post by Zaf on Aug 10, 2013 6:43:47 GMT 1
Thanks shaz
Feeling very tired this morning which isnt surprising, planning a very quiet weekend and hoping to get one
Z xxx
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Post by Zaf on Aug 10, 2013 19:23:47 GMT 1
Feelng a bit better this evening thank goodness, still very concerned about my mum but hopefully the doctors will be able to sort out why she seems so porly
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Post by shazzy on Aug 11, 2013 7:58:01 GMT 1
Just mailed you.
S x x
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Post by Zaf on Aug 11, 2013 12:03:34 GMT 1
No mail arrived shaz, we re having internet problems, perhaps its ot lst somewhere I think my mum has had a complete mental breakdown, she forgot to feed the dogs ths morning and I had to make her a cup of tea, since then I havent been able to persuade her to eat or drink anything, if this goes on I will have to phone the surgery tomorrow as I dont think she should have to wait till Thursday to see someone |
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Post by shazzy on Aug 11, 2013 21:51:34 GMT 1
Sorry Zaf, had a blonde moment I think lol.
Its such a worry for you, your poor mum. I personally think that a call to the surgery would be a good thing to do, she cannot go without eating and drinking.
Thinking of you.
S x x
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Ive done the most important thing for my own MH, told David how I am feeling, how he copes living with me and this dammned illness sometimes I'll never know 
poor you, what's up with your arm. You are really going through a tough time. ((((( hugs ))))) x
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